If I Could Redo My Kids’ Toy Collection: What I Wish I Knew as a New Parent

When I first became a parent, I had no idea how quickly toys would take over my home. What started as a few thoughtful gifts turned into overflowing bins, mismatched sets, and a constant cycle of picking up, sorting, and feeling overwhelmed. I wanted my kids to have enriching, engaging play experiences—but instead, I found myself drowning in toys that weren’t being used, weren’t developmentally appropriate, or just created more chaos than joy.

If I could go back and redo my kids’ toy collection, I’d do things so differently. And if you’re just starting your parenting journey, I hope this post gives you a little clarity before the toy overwhelm sets in!

The Accidental Toy Overload

No one tells you how quickly toys accumulate. As new parents, we’re gifted stuffed animals, blinking plastic toys, and every adorable thing that friends and family think our child might enjoy. Birthdays, holidays, and well-meaning relatives add to the pile. Before you know it, you’re surrounded by an overwhelming amount of toys—but very few that actually work for your child or align with the kind of play environment you envisioned.

I used to think that more toys meant more fun, but I learned that the opposite is true. Too many toys create decision fatigue, clutter, and, surprisingly, less engagement. My kids flitted from one toy to the next, rarely playing deeply. The mess felt endless, and I realized that I wasn’t curating a play space—I was simply managing stuff.

What I Wish I Had Done Instead

If I could start over, I’d be so much more intentional about the toys I brought into our home. I’d focus on fewer, high-quality, open-ended toys that truly support my kids’ development. Instead of letting toys accumulate, I’d create a system that keeps playtime simple and engaging.

For parents just starting out, here’s my best advice:

• Be intentional from the beginning. Instead of collecting random toys, think about what kind of play environment you want to create.

• Prioritize quality over quantity. Fewer, well-made toys will last longer and provide richer play experiences.

• Communicate with friends and family. Let them know your preferences so they can gift in a way that aligns with your values.

• Rotate toys. Not everything needs to be out all at once—keeping fewer toys accessible at a time can actually encourage deeper play.

Montessori-Friendly Toys for Parents Just Starting Out

Montessori-inspired toys focus on simplicity, natural materials, and purposeful play. If I could redo my kids’ toy collection, these are the kinds of toys I would start with:

For Babies (0-12 months)

✔ Wooden grasping toys – Helps develop fine motor skills and sensory awareness.
✔ Montessori mobiles – Encourages visual tracking and concentration.
✔ Soft fabric or wooden rattles – Engages the senses with gentle sounds and textures.
✔ Object permanence box – Teaches cause and effect and strengthens hand-eye coordination.

For Toddlers (1-3 years)

✔ Stacking cups or rings – Develops problem-solving and coordination.
✔ Shape sorters – Builds fine motor skills and early cognitive development.
✔ Push and pull toys – Encourages movement and gross motor skills.
✔ Wooden animals or figurines – Supports open-ended, imaginative play.
✔ Simple musical instruments – Promotes sensory exploration and rhythm awareness.

For Preschoolers (3-5 years)

✔ Building blocks (like wooden blocks or Magnatiles) – Enhances creativity and problem-solving.
✔ Play kitchen or realistic pretend play items – Encourages role-playing and practical life skills.
✔ Lacing beads or threading activities – Strengthens fine motor control.
✔ Balance board or Pikler triangle – Encourages movement and active play.
✔ Puzzles with real-life images – Supports concentration and logical thinking.

Curating a Toy Collection with Intention

The beauty of starting with a minimalist, Montessori-friendly approach is that it grows with your child. These toys don’t just entertain—they support development, foster independence, and encourage creativity. If I could redo my kids’ toy collection, I’d choose quality over quantity every time.

If you’re just starting out, I encourage you to take a thoughtful approach to toy selection. You don’t need more—you just need the right toys. And if you’re already knee-deep in toy overwhelm, it’s never too late to simplify and reset!